October 18, 2023
When working on a custody agreement, whether as part of a divorce or separation, it's essential to create a plan that prioritizes the children's best interests. Here are five essential things to remember when developing a custody agreement: Keep your eye on the goal – the well-being of your children. The primary consideration in any custody agreement should be the well-being of the children. The agreement should promote their physical, emotional, and psychological health and development. We understand how difficult it may be to stay focused on this – especially if you were hurt as your relationship with your co-parent dissolved. However, avoid using the custody agreement to gain leverage or retaliate against the other parent. Make sure the custody agreement sets clear and specific terms. The custody agreement should be detailed and specific. It should outline the schedule for visitation and custody, including holidays, vacations, and special occasions. The plan can outline specific times and meeting places so you can plan your holidays and breaks years in advance. Clear terms can help prevent future disputes and ensure both parents understand their roles and responsibilities. Maintain communication with your co-parent – if possible. Effective communication is crucial. It's best if parents maintain open and respectful communication with each other. While you may struggle with this at first, the passage of time may help. Establishing a method of contact and a process for addressing any disputes or changes to the agreement is often helpful. For example, you and your co-parent could communicate best through email. Also, using a mediator or family counselor can facilitate productive discussions. Understand that life is full of unexpected events and changes. Life is full of changes, and custody agreements should allow flexibility. For example, unexpected events, such as job changes or relocations, can affect the agreement. Consider including clauses that allow for modifications when necessary, provided they are in the child's best interests. Hire expert legal counsel to guide you during the custody process. When creating a custody agreement, consulting with a family law attorney is highly advisable – especially if your co-parent is especially dominant. An attorney can provide guidance, ensure that the agreement adheres to local laws, and help protect your rights and interests. Finally, legal professionals can help you navigate any disputes or modifications to the agreement. Custody experts often have years of experience handling these situations and recognize red flags when they see them. If you are in the KC Metro and need assistance with matters of child custody, schedule a consultation with Kelly, Symonds, & Reed, LLC. One of the focuses of our law practice is paternity and child custody. We have helped many families during this emotional process and can help you and your children, too. At Kelly, Symonds, & Reed , we remember that a custody agreement is not just a legal document – it's a plan for co-parenting and ensuring the welfare of your children. Contact us today with your questions about custody and paternity by filling out the contact form on our website or giving our office a call.